Hold Me Tight® Couples Retreat-Comments by Participants

“This weekend was a game changer for us.  It took us out of our comfort zone and rewrote our dance.  I am much more aware now of my husband’s perspectives on situations and how my reactions impacted him and perpetuated our negative cycle.”

Facilitator: “Highly effective, approachable, responsive, reflective practitioner.”

“Seeing others also in trouble helped us both not feel as awkward about our own issues.”

“Very worth the commitment of time, money and emotional energy.  A meaningful experience that will be woven into the fabric of our relationship.”

“If it were ever possible, I would want every couple to take this course regardless of what level of challenge their marriage is in.  It has been invaluable for my husband and me.  Thank you for your support and for bringing EFT to light in our community.”

“It’s the best couples counselling format I’ve ever experienced.”  (What was most helpful?)  “A program we are both engaged with, a framework we can use going forward.  The group format is value-added as a support system: we see others in the room with struggles in the areas presented; breakout conversations remain more controlled because we can’t fall back so quickly to escalating dance routines…help is there immediately when we are in a challenging situation.  Conversations are much more productive in a “supported” environment.  More gains made overall in this format than independent counselling sessions.  EFT gets down to the real issues behind the dance!!!

“As a young couple expecting our first baby, this was the perfect way to take stock of our relationship and help prepare for the major changes about to come!”

“I would recommend the weekend without reservation.  We have both made more progress in 2 days than we did in months of couple and individual counselling.  We feel closer, more empathetic and able to reach out to one another through the curtain of pain and fear.  Thank you!”

“I wish more and more young couples could benefit from something like this and not have to wait 20+ years before learning about how to create, preserve and nourish connection.”

“We came to the workshop in at least a “Slow Burn” for 2-3 years if not a “Deep Freeze”.  During the workshop we were able to talk to each other – indeed discover the person behind our partner’s “disconnection”.  

“Mary helped us through a very painful conversation; it felt like a breakthrough and lead us to a place where we can focus on the heart of the matter and let the clutter slip away.”  

“This course will help you on the journey of understanding what is really causing the blocks in your relationship.  If you want to make your relationship more intimate, close and loving then this will help you to get there.  It gave me a structure and framework to get to a deeper emotional connection.”

Facilitator: “Mary is a great narrator and has a soothing style which inspires and reassures.”

 

 

 

 

 


“Very easy to listen to and responsive to the group, explains dense material very well and put the group at ease.”

 “Amazing. Mary – your tone while expressing feelings (childlike and soft) .

 “Mary’s gentle clarity is welcoming and reassuring and calming.”

“That we are in this together and are not enemies.”

 “The content was very practical and yet deeply meaningful. We have the understanding and the tools now to step out of the Tornado and reconnect going forward. I would and will highly recommend this program!   I’m filled with gratitude for the presenters and Dr. Johnson for pursuing this work so that others can benefit from this healing work.”

 “I think every couple should experience EFT “Hold Me Tight”. Great conversations for a relationship in any stage.”

 “I would highly recommend it. My partner had a breakthrough and this saved our relationship and brought us to a new level of bonding and understanding. We feel that this workshop would improve any relationship.”

 “The way the exercises were broken down really helped to simplify the process and keep it on track.”

 “I think this is a great process to help couples connect and understand each other. I would recommend this to others. My husband and I have been stuck in the loop, pointing fingers and blaming each other for so long and this process really helped to stop that cycle and get to the root issues and help us bond and attach to each other again. I’m so glad my husband was open to this process, I feel we’re on the right track to a long loving lifetime together. I look forward to growing old with him.”


“Worth the time, effort and money well spent.  Opened my eyes and allowed me to dig deep emotionally an understand my partner more deeply.  Gives me the hope to listen and work on my marriage… :)”

“Do it – take the time to develop your skills with each other.  It is SO worth the time.  Be there for each other and commit.  For me and my husband it has given us a framework to discuss difficult things and to heal old hurts.”  

“I believe this would help any relationship, troubled or not.  I feel it will help me forever.”

“I would say it was the best tools for a happy relationship that I have ever picked up in my life and anyone could benefit from a weekend like this one.”

“The power of the program was the permission to go deep and explore in safety the dangerous moments and memories that formed my demons.  Seeing the pattern was liberating!”

“The Facilitator:  “10/10!”   “She was first class.  Very authentic.  Her personal anecdotes humanized her and the process.”

“I wish we would have done it earlier in our relationship.  This weekend has helped both of us to face our fears and make sure that the other knows they are safe with their partner.”

“It impacted me by slowing my mind down, giving me strength and an attitude adjustment that was badly needed.”

“I will strongly suggest some of my friends come to one.  The framework and examples have given me some great tools to work with.  I feel hope that my marriage will be successful and can be happy.”

“After this weekend it is even more paramount to me that I not be complacent in my marriage; to recognize the importance of the “children” inside us and to heal the injuries that we have caused.  I never knew how “wired” we are for the connection or attachment to another person.  I know now that I deserve and need this.  I am going to encourage my adult married children to take this course.”

“The video clips and songs made for nice segues and provided for lighter moments after difficult and challenging conversations.”

“Gave us a template to guide our conversations, which gave us the push/courage to open up and explore the deeper/softer emotions and issues.”

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“Intense but worth the investment. Great relationship education. This helped our relationship by helping us see how our past experiences influence our soft spots today and how our negative cycle impacts this.”

“The honesty created by the atmosphere – Everyone should do this, no matter where you are in a relationship. It could positively impact every relationship – not just romantic ones. It impacted our relationship by creating an opening for a safe place to grow together.”

“If you are willing to open up and do the work you will be amazed at the results and the progress your marriage and individual emotional support you will give and receive.”

“This weekend helped me see how our primary emotions and needs are universal to my partner and the greater community. I feel like my partner and I are on the same page now and can follow skills/steps to really let each other know how we are feeling and move forward.”

“An intense 2 days.   A new beginning.”

“To learn to be open about yourself. It’s a fast, tough weekend of soul searching and team building. Be prepared for a difficult emotional roller coaster. I’ve learned to monitor our cycle, and that it’s the enemy, not my spouse.”

“It changed the course of where we were headed. It transformed us for the better. Thank you, Mary.”

“Be open to learning and you may be amazed. Very enlightening and put us on track. The weekend was infused with a good balance of humour, seriousness, gentleness and support. Everyone should invest in their relationship this way. A life changer for us. Thank you!”

“Following the couples was highly valuable. Enjoyed the humourous clips to help me shift out of big feelings. The facilitator was warm, inviting, very clear, nice pacing…I would say any couple would benefit from this program, and that some prior EFT work would be highly valuable.”

“This workshop was very helpful and I learned a lot about myself and my husband. We have a long road to go but baby steps first. I am not sure if we can carry this out at home but we will be contacting an EFT therapist in our area to help us through. I am hopeful and will do my best to try to repair the damage that’s been done. The videos were great and helpful and speaking to the other couples made me feel that we are not alone. Mary’s talks were amazing. The videos watching couples go through the conversations helped me to understand my husband so much more.”

“Understanding that only when I connect emotionally will my relationship grow and survive.”

“That is one of the most, I should say the most powerful way of getting out of our bad connection and replace it with a positive one. Step by step, each time it becomes easier and our relationship becomes richer and safer.”

“Guidance, structure, building blocks in which to discuss our own feelings in a safe space.”

“The experience is valuable and is intended to serve as skill acquired to continue to support couples as they move to deepen their bond.”

“It would help anyone, go early (don’t wait till there’s too much pain).”

“Excellent way to learn to effectively communicate with your significant other, understanding your fear and your wife’s.”

“Just do it. It will make your relationship better.”

“I believe it is so much about ‘tuning’ and the level of pain someone is in. I know discovering ‘attachment styles’ or ‘injuries’ changed me. I started to be able to see past the pain – just a little bit. I felt actual hope for the first time. And that is shocking because all I saw was divorce. I know I am on the right path finally.”

“Relationship Education 101 – excellent for all relationships at any stage of despair.”

“The idea that anger is a secondary emotion that covers a more fundamental emotion. It helps me to understand that, when my partner is angry at me, I’m not failing him as much as it may seem. And when I get angry, there is something I’m insecure about in my attachment bond.”

“Do it! EFT is a great tool and the workshop is run by great, non-judgemental people.”

“Mary knows her stuff. Great at holding space!”

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“If your relationship is in need of repair this is the environment to do it in!”

“I would recommend this workshop highly to anyone. I would say it set up a good foundation and provided tools to begin a healthy process of change and ‘recovery’.”

The “Forgiving Injuries” conversation – putting the elephants between us and discussing them.”

 “Excellent, really helped us get reconnected.”

 Most helpful? “Reaching out to Mary when in distress – you were clear, calm and caring. Thank you.”

 Facilitator? “Calming, peaceful, wealth of wisdom. GRATEFUL to have found/reached out to Mary.”

 “I would say ‘be open’, ‘be patient’, ‘trust the process’. I came here with my husband full of fear, doubt and anxiety. I’m leaving feeling more safe than I have felt in a long time. At first it was a bit intimidating however once you realize and accept everyone is here wanting/needing to change or find another way to speak and connect with their partner, a sense of safety and peace sets in. “

 “How did this affect my/our relationship? It provided us with a new way of thinking, new tools and dialogues, examples of how other couples with similar issues found a deeper way of connecting. We didn’t feel alone. We felt safe dealing with such sensitive and toxic issues. We are both leaving with a sense of safety, calmness and hope for OUR future. A future with deeper understanding and connection. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.”

 “This weekend gave us the time to focus on each other and deal with what really matters. It’s like a rebirth of our relationship. We can set goals and we are now aware of each other’s fears and hurts. Our children will benefit from the tools we have gained to work out a more loving relationship.”

 What was most helpful? “The ability to clear clutter and get down to the source/heart of the issue. Not the surface/cycle stuff.”

 “How safe I felt throughout the workshop. The pace was perfect, not too fast/too much, not too little. Mary doesn’t have doubts about the content or what’s really important – very trustworthy presenter – very impressed with her presence, knowledge and caring.”

 “I often found myself stuck. Using the assistants made all the difference. Helped me to clear the road block. “

 Facilitator? “Soft spoken and had my attention. The perfect speed for the high sensitivity of the subject.”

 Roving therapists? “Made all the difference. I needed to know we were progressing so the check-in was necessary.”

 What to say to other couples? “That they should just do it.   Put fear/doubt aside and jump in with both feet. It will change you. It will give you the clarity you desire – the most unexpected kind. You’ll feel the connection again. It’s worth it!”

 “Having a therapist available to help us move forward when we got stuck.”

 “Mary really ‘gets it’ – without saying a lot she was able to help us move to the next deeper level and feel safe together.”

 “I didn’t realize how scared I was, how unsafe I was feeling. Not only did I discover that but I learned how to acknowledge it, share it with my partner and move closer to him instead of running away – which I didn’t even realize I was doing!”

 “It will help you get unstuck and connected. Do it!”

 “Discovering a couple in the DVD’s that mirrored us. It validated the feelings that one dismisses as silly.”

 “I would recommend anyone taking at least a few sessions privately first to stop construction on the walls and break down some barriers.”

 “We moved from wondering about the future or if to, I think, finding comfort that we will figure this out and will end up happily ever after.”

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“The weekend was difficult but very helpful. The EFT model provides a framework to assist couples in having the conversations necessary to reconnect and be in tune. It also helps and starts the healing process. The workshop impacted us by helping us to better understand where we’ve come from, why we are feeling the way we are and enabled us to start the difficult conversations needed to move closer to each other.”

“The DVD’s were very helpful, watching people work through things and seeing the parallels in our relationship.”

 “This is a beautiful program. I love that it is emotion based and goes straight to the heart of a loving relationship. I liked that there was modelling of how to have these conversations because I often fumble in trying to articulate such levels because I have no role models.”

 “Mary is a very gentle, wise presence. She offers very quickly a safe environment to do deep work.”

 “I know a few couples that I am close enough to that I would recommend doing this workshop. Having this available in the K-W area is great and there is a need for it!”

 “Focusing on our marriage for 18 hours was very useful and rewarding.   We talked about a lot of things that are difficult to do on our own and hopefully brought out some quality fresh perspectives on past injury. I think we can grow from here.”

 “It puts it on the table in a safe environment. Everything to gain…”

 “I would highly recommend HMT to anyone of my friends needing to find a better way to connect to their lover. It gave examples and direction as to how to connect with my partner – how to recognize when connection is needed.”

 “Mary is amazing. She speaks well and is so understanding! She is a wonderful speaker!”

 “I would say definitely do [the workshop]. It was awesome! I learned a lot about my husband and his needs and wants. I also learned about myself as well and what I need from him and how to ask for it.   Thanks, Mary!”

 “It was an empowering and enlightening experience. We both feel that this HMT weekend has given us a framework to be closer and more in tune with our individual feelings and those of our partner.”

 “I think every couple should take this workshop, hopefully before a relationship trauma. It explains how our past relationship with parents shapes our deeper emotions. It really makes you understand your partner’s real emotions and not just the anger they show you.”

 “The Hold Me Tight weekend has opened my eyes to our feelings, expectations and needs for touch.”

 “The examples of the conversations provided a framework and allowed me to relate to various partners in the videos. The talks with my partner started a much needed dialogue. The facilitator was very good, extremely knowledgeable and helpful. Thank you Mary!”

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