This article is very helpful from an EFT perspective.
I highly recommend it to women and men too.
A brief interview about the “science of bonding” and what we now know about adult love.
Interview with Rebecca Jorgensen, EFT therapist
So often the pursuing partner’s longing to feel close, safe and connected through lovemaking is misunderstood and the sadness, loneliness and rejection not seen by the other. Michelle Weiner Davis understands those underlying attachment needs. I often hear the withdrawn partner describing the other as “just wanting sex, it’s all about sex” and missing what is really going on where sexual connection is rare or lost.